but who are you at your core: the work (part two)
You might really want to understand who you are at your core and truly mean it but let’s be honest: it’s easier to read about this work than to actually do it.
You might journal one day, feel a deep shift, and then Life rushes in. Old habits return. You find yourself right back where you started.
And yet, something still calls you back.
The deep reflective questions in But Who Are You at Your Core: The Work are powerful. If you have the time and capacity to journal them. do. They hold weight. They will help open doors.
But if you can’t? That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to find this understanding. There is always another way in. A different rhythm. A softer path.
These are not steps to follow, not rules to get right just playful, spacious ways to keep circling back to yourself.
1. Walking in Order to Reflect
You don’t need a journal or a perfect morning routine to meet yourself. Sometimes the most honest reflection comes when you're not trying so hard to “figure it out.”
Choose a single thread – a question, a feeling, a moment from your life – and take it on a walk. Not to chase clarity, but to let it breathe in open air.
Let the rhythm of your steps hold it for you. Let the trees interrupt your thinking. Let your mind unravel and loop and spiral as it pleases.
The version of me I miss the most is...
What have I always known, deep down?
When do I feel most alive – and why?
If your thoughts drift too far, gently guide them back, like a leaf floating toward the shore. Don’t force. Just follow.
This is not about answers. It’s about return.
2. Visualise to Remember
Close your eyes. Settle into stillness.
Now imagine the version of you who feels most alive. they don’t need to be perfect. just whole. Just real.
Where are you?
What do your days feel like?
What have you finally laid down?
What are you growing into?
This future self is not fantasy. It’s memory in disguise an echo of who you’ve always been, beneath the noise.
Let this version of you speak.
Let them show you what you’ve buried and what you’re ready to reclaim.
This isn’t about striving. This is about remembering.
3. Let It Be Heard
Some truths only arrive when they are spoken. They don’t sit well on paper. They need air.
Find someone who can hold space – a friend, a guide, someone who listens not to fix, but to reflect.
Sometimes, just hearing your own words aloud softens the tangle.
And if no one is there, speak to yourself.
On a walk.
In the bath.
Into a voice note.
Don’t perform. Just release.
There’s a moment, often unexpected, when your voice says something your mind didn’t know it knew.
That moment is gold.
That moment is a return.
4. Create Something That Doesn’t Make Sense
Forget purpose. Forget good.
Make something that lets your soul breathe.
Write a letter from your future self.
Sketch what your insides feel like.
Collage your values.
Doodle the shape of a day that feels like you.
Sing into your phone with no intention to share.
This is not about being an artist. It’s about being honest.
About letting something rise that doesn’t have to be explained.
Sometimes the parts of you that feel the most true can’t be written in sentences – but they show up in colour, in sound, in shape.
Let them.
5. A Ritual of Return
You don’t need hours. Just a moment.
A pause in the quiet of a morning, or while the kettle boils.
A deep breath before you sleep.
A moment to check in, not check out.
Ask yourself something small:
Where did I feel most like myself this week?
What did I avoid, and what might that mean?
What pulled me off-centre – and what brought me back?
Let these questions be soft. Not demands. Just doorways.
This isn’t about control or tracking. It’s about remembering, again and again, that you are not lost.
You’re simply on your way.
