It Was Always Been You

We all want love.
Whether we’ve felt it, lost it, or never quite known it - love is something most of us ache for.

You might be with someone and still wonder, Is this it? Shouldn’t I feel more more alive, more whole, less alone,?

Or maybe you’ve met someone and felt it instantly, that this, this is your soulmate. That you’ve somehow won the lottery.

And yet, for many, there’s a quiet ache.

You might feel behind. Like everyone else is building a life and you’re just waiting. Waiting for your person, your great love, the thing that will finally let you begin.

You tell yourself you’re doing fine - but there’s a quiet voice inside that says:
You’re not there yet. You’re missing something essential.

As though you’re stuck watching others move forward while you wait for that love to pull you into motion - to begin the life you’ve been dreaming about for so long.

Or you might have someone, and still feel a hollow space inside. You care about them, they’re wonderful, smart, kind and caring but you expected something bigger, more consuming, more life-altering. but something doesn’t feel right. And admitting that terrifies you. Because you're afraid. Afraid to leave. Afraid you’ll never find it again. Afraid this is as good as it gets.

Or perhaps you’ve met someone wonderful - someone you know is right.
But deep down, there’s still an ache and you don’t know why.

Or Sometimes, you do know. Sometimes, you just know. You feel it in your body, in your gut - this is love. Real. Full.
You feel safe, seen, chosen.
It could be the beginning, the middle, or nearing the end. But you know it.
And it is breathtaking.

But here’s the truth: no matter how deep, how real, how pure someone else’s love is - it cannot fully quiet the ache inside. Love is beautiful. Truly.
But even the deepest love won’t heal the parts of you you’ve never met. Only you can do that. To go to the darkest corners of your mind, to sit with your greatest fears and your greatest loves.

Even the most loving person can’t carry all of you, the right person can support you, celebrate you, carry you through joy and sadness but you are the one who will always be there.

The one who’s made it through every hard moment. It’s you who will keep showing up, even when it’s hard. Even when you feel you aren’t enough.

Building that kind of relationship with yourself is the foundation. It’s not always glamorous -it’s built in the quiet, lonely moments, in the hard decisions, in the tears and the resilience. It’s built in the early mornings and late nights, when no one is watching. It’s the kind of love that can’t be shaken, even when everything else is. The kind that wobbles sometimes, but doesn’t collapse.

You are the love of your life.

You are the one who has carried you, picked up the pieces, laughed at the things only you understand, and sat through the silence. Yes, others can love you - and that’s such a beautiful part of being human. But the strongest, most transformative relationships grow from the strength of your relationship with yourself.

And it doesn’t always have to be deep, confronting, or heavy. It can be built when you take yourself for a coffee and simply exist. When you walk through nature and let your thoughts rise and fall without judgment.
When you smile at something only you understand.
When you feel safe in your own company.

It doesn’t have to be heavy. It can be light. Simple. Soft
Yes, there will be times the work seems deep and scary - especially if it means facing something you’ve hidden. But even then, in that confrontation, your life may shift in ways you never imagined.

Loving yourself means embracing every part of you - the bold, the broken, the scared, the spectacular. Some pieces need extra tenderness. Others are uniquely yours, things you didn’t even realise made you who you are in the first place. You were never truly fractured. You were always whole. Just complex. Full. Intricate. Made up of so many beautiful parts that you couldn’t see clearly until you cracked open and looked inside.

But know this:

Your relationship with yourself will shape everything.
It will hold you steady in storms.
It will let you see beauty more clearly.
It will change what you accept, what you chase, and what you let go of.

There is nothing more life-changing than learning to love yourself.

To remember that you’ve always been enough.
To know that your wholeness was never missing - it was just waiting for you to notice.
Truly. Deeply.
Just as you are.